Teleconference Call for Sabotage Seminar is Wed. March 28 @ 5:30 EST.

Dial-in Number: 1-218-862-6789
Conference Code: 542045

 

Readers, as promised we kick off the week with part one of our five week seminar series on How to Master Gender Dynamics in the workplace delivered by renowned success speaker and entrepreneur Laura L. Brown of LotusLifeWork. Welcome to IOS Laura, lots of questions have been coming in, we’re excited to dig in. I’ll turn it over to you. – Shoe Hostess.

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Laura L. Brown

“Thanks, I am passionate about helping women succeed in business and look forward to providing you with the some vital insight into what is really going on at work.

 

The Top 5 Ways Women Sabotage Themselves in Business: 

• Making assumptions about what motivates men
• Not understanding how you are being perceived by men (and other women)
• Languaging yourself into a negative reputation
• Having issues with power
• Not staying grounded in your feminine strengths

All of these behaviors keep women from reaching their career goals – and most of the time it’s completely unconscious! Assuming you know how men are thinking or what drives their actions is mistake number one!

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What can women do to ‘bond’ with male colleagues?

Stop thinking they want to bond with you. Men think of work as a game, with a pecking order. Your main concern should be, do they respect you?

What do you do if your boss consistently invites a male associate who is more junior to you to social outings?

There are many reasons why this could be happening and the best thing you can do is to not assume you know the reason. Of course, situations like this are delicate because of the variables involved, such as his marital status, are you the only woman in his department, does he respect your work. Clear communication is the place to start. Be clear about your goals, i.e., do you want to build a better working relationship with your boss or be friends with him? Are you prepared to hear him say that he isn’t comfortable being in social situations with just the two of you? How would you respond to that very real concern?

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I invite you to take a look at where you are assuming you know what drives the behaviors or actions of your male colleagues. It is only human to think that others will act the way you would act, but male and female brains are wired differently. Because of this, we view the world through different filters and motivations.

Men are not looking to be your friend at work, they are looking to succeed – it’s all about winning, however they define a win.

The goal is to be respected for your skills, abilities and accomplishments. It’s not about who ‘likes’ you.

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In next week’s seminar, I will address perception issues and how men and women displaying the same behaviors will elicit different responses. Feel free to keep submitting questions. Should we not get to them all, I will host a tele-conference dial-in where we can dig in some more on a group level.”

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To learn more about how Laura can support you or your organization in career development and advancement, go to www.LotusLifeWork.com and sign up to receive her newsletter and information about the March launch of her self study product: Positively Promotable – Understanding Men at Work. You can also download her free smartphone app for Android and iPhone – search for “LotusLifeWork” to receive daily doses of information, inspiration and introspection!

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Up next meet Natasha Lowery, an American Texan mom living in London. She sounds off to In Our Shoes on what it’s like to parent amongst mummys on British soil. Stay tuned!

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Companion “First Footprint” from In Our Shoes column in Here is the City News.

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This summer In Our Shoes delivers an empowering seminar program for women offered in New York and London: the “Dream Shoe” Seminar!

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I leave you here with the first of a 5 part free audio series unveiling the:

 

5 Footprints which Smart Ambitious Women make when following their Passion in Business!

 

Play- 17 minutes

 

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Interviewing successful women entrepreneurs and consulting with women who have worked in corporate most of their career lives or who have stepped out of the workplace for a few years after having children and wish to re-enter, inspired this Dream Shoe seminar last year, addressing the below questions I am asked all of the time as they are considering the next stage of their careers.  Share your story in the following pre-seminar registration Profile Sheet and then explore what the Dream Shoe Seminar is all about. We hope to meet you in person! In the meantime, enjoy these 5 footprints of what working women really want out of life: to follow a career they are passionate about!

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• Am I good enough? I’ve worked in corporate my whole life, dream shoes are just that – a big dream.
• How can I reinvent myself pursuing a career I love when I have only worked for other people?
• I have no official employment experience on paper, only an interest in XYZ business, how can I transition to a new career?
• I am a single parent and main breadwinner, how can I take a risk and start something new?

These questions and more will be addressed in this 5 part seminar and serve as a preview of the in-person Dream Shoe Seminar made available this year. I hope you enjoy this First Footprint sound byte and return back for more inspiring solutions to jumpstart you to the next stage of your career!

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Place your comments and questions below. We can follow up with a tele-conference seminar again where we can continue the conversation on how Smart Ambitious women follow their Passions in Business!

Psssst, have you subscribed to In Our Shoes? Media share buttons sit below for you to pass it on!

 

 

 

In a study conducted in the US and Europe interviewing senior managers across industries, it was asked what skills they value most in the people they hire. Turns out, it’s the soft skills that tip the scale unanimously.

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Time to get your sexy on. 

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You can be at the top of your game regardless of whether you’re a chef, research analyst or an accountant.  At the end of the day however, you’re valued on how professionally you cooked the roast, not on the rating of the heavenly five course meal you just whipped up.

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The Top Three hit list  of what skills are most desired by management: 

1. Leadership

2. Communication Skills

3. Personal Charisma / Persuasiveness

.Love it. I’ll also throw in my personal  #4 :

4. Quiet Confidence – never leave home without it.

 

 

Happy Holidays readers. New year. New possibility. New slate.  Cheers!

 

“Sometimes I get a good feeling. I get a feeling that I never never never never had before.” – Flo Rida

  

 I’m humbled to see the rising interest in In Our Shoes from UK subscribers. This week I’m excited to announce the launch of a site across the pond. 

InRShoes.co.uk  is now official and live.

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Stay tuned for my British working mum interview with someone who I must say has worn shoes I’ve never come close to trying on. Readers, I introduce you to woman warrior Danielle Curzon.

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Formally an international titleholder dressage rider, an international champion martial arts competitor, former bodyguard to Emma Watson and other celebrities, survivor of a miraculuous pregnancy with healthy baby girl (the one the medical experts said she’d never have) and is now a leading first female referee in the UK’s Mixed Martial Arts circuit at UCMMA Cage Rage..

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Oh and not to be swept under the rug, Danielle is also a daughter of British aristocracy, born to the noble Viscount Scarsdale. 

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More to come on her astounding story!

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In other news, check out the not so surprising recent headline from The Economist (it stings just the same):

Closing the gap: Women have made huge progress in the workplace, but still get lower pay and far fewer top jobs than men.

Lots coming up this month including more advice on the job hunt. Rocky financial forecast ahead in the States and overseas. The resume/CV as we know it has been revamped – I’ll have lots of tips to get you prepared, the interview game has changed. Feel free to email me any questions.

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Wonderful weekend everyone, be well.

 

 

 

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